Fall In Love With Me When I'm In Sweats!

I told my guy today, I'm going to get my nails done for when I see him on Tuesday. He smiled and sent me a link to a Katt Williams comedy thing where he talks about how guys couldn't care less about that stuff.

It's true! Women do a lot of things to please men. It's become such a normal way of life that we don't feel it's unnecessary. So we go out and get our nails done, and buy pretty clothing, we spend hundreds on make up and the purses and shoes. We try to find the best hair products so that each strand flows perfectly around our shoulders and stress over every little imperfection.

When you're in a relationship, your guy always tells you you're beautiful without make up, I don't care if your nails are done or not, you look amazing in the morning in your sweats....

But when was the last time a guy told you he fell in love with this girl he saw at 6 am sitting on her porch in sweats with crust in her eyes, her hair in Afro mode with her cute blemishes sticking out? When was the last time your guy friend told you he's dating the girl he saw on the train wearing torn jeans and a stained shirt with dry cracked skin, peeling lips and gel flakes in her hair? When have you ever heard a man say he fell for her unshaven legs, flabby thighs, armpit hair and bushy eyebrows?!

Ah ha!!!!
See now those are things that can be dealt with later in the relationship when you live together or spend enough time with each other to get used to the flaws we cover up. But you won't look at a girl and say "man! she looks hot with her rolls hanging out!" or "Look how beautiful she is when she smiles with spinach in her teeth" or "God I love a woman that eats like a horse"!

So say all you want dear men but we do all the things we do because WE KNOW!
So yeah, we appreciate the compliments more than any of you can understand and it reassures us to hear you tell us we don't NEED to do all we do but we know that if we didn't, at least in the beginning you wouldn't have taken a second look. And if we stop further in the relationship you ask us what's changed?
It's human! And we are not in denial my friends. We love your attention when you mention the soft material we're wearing as you run your hands on it, we love how big your eyes become when you see us in a tight dress that accentuates the finer points of our bodies, we live for your stumbling words when we kiss you with soft lips along your neck and we die to know that everything we do does in fact add up to you thinking "I can never live without her"

And you cover up flaws too my dears! I doubt you'll scratch your balls, fart at dinner, pick your nose, wear pajamas, and burp excessively on a first date. And if you're actually doing all that in public I highly doubt you expect a girl to turn around and say "That's the guy I wanna marry"!

MEN! Tell her she's beautiful! Tell her she's amazing! Tell her you can't imagine anyone more perfect whether she's in sweats or the dress that makes you want to throw her on the bed animalistically! But tell her you appreciate that she didn't cut her nails so short because she knows you love it when she scratches your back. And tell her you appreciate that she went out of her way to get the ingredients you love for dinner even though it wouldn't have mattered to you either way. And tell her how unbelievably sexy she looks in that expensive piece of "barely any fabric" lingerie (even though it wasn't worth her money) because she does it all to please you!
Tell her you love that she called to make sure you're ok because if you love her the same you would be worried too. And show her how much you appreciate that the house is organized even though she walked in the house 10 minutes before you did, had time to cook, feed the kids and STILL organize that day's mess. Appreciate the new sheets on the bed, and the expensive cooking utensils that only help her cook better for you.
Appreciate her wardrobe!!! Maybe some of you don't notice but if you ever tell us a certain style doesn't look as good as a different style... our clothing preferences change!!! TELL HER you noticed she changed her perfume, and her new haircut, her pink painted toenails and her loss of a pound or two.
As much as some women deny it, we do it to please you! It makes us feel good and makes us more confident because it's something you notice or something you comment on.


And when you're in love guys, you subconsciously change too! In the relationship cycle, we do things to please each other because that's simply the way it is otherwise there would be no relationships at all!

We love you because you went out of your way to buy us flowers, because you washed the dishes after we cooked dinner, because suddenly we felt your hand caressing our back and because you cut your hair the way we like. Because you stop us in our tracks to kiss us in public, because you hug us from behind while we're cooking and because you texted us that you love! Because you listened to something we said and did something about it and because you held our hand and told your friends about us and because you tell us every day how amazing we are!
Sounds simple enough but you wouldn't do all those things unless you were trying to please us.

Relationships are an amazing thing because you work for each other out of love and so it doesn't seem like work at all because your reward is PRICELESS!